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Membership
| The Rt. Rev. John Neil Alexander, Chair | Atlanta IV, 2009 |
| Ms. Judith Dodge, Vice-Chair | Washington III, 2006 |
| The Rt. Rev. Wendell N. Gibbs, Jr. | Michigan V, 2006 |
| The Rt. Rev. Barry R. Howe | West Missouri VII, 2006 |
| Ms. Julia Huttar Bailey | Michigan V, 2009 |
| Mr. R.C. Laird | Minnesota VI, 2006 |
| Dr. Carl MaultsBy | New York II, 2009 |
| The Very Rev. Ernesto R. Medina | Los Angeles VIII, 2009 |
| Miss Marcia Pruner | Northern Michigan V, 2006 |
| The Rev. John W. Ruder | Olympia VIII, 2006 |
| The Rt. Rev. George Wayne Smith | Missouri V, 2009 |
| Mrs. Mildred Springer | Nevada VIII, 2009 |
| The Rev. H. Lawrence Thompson | Pittsburg III, 2009 |
| Ms. Jessica Wilkerson | Montana VI, 2009 |
| Mr. Ted Yumoto | San Joaquin VIII, 2006 |
| The Rev. Canon Gregory M. Howe, Ex Officio | Delaware III, 2006 |
| Custodian of the Standard Book | |
| The Very Rev. Cynthia L. Black, Executive Council Liaison | Western Michigan V, 2006 |
| The Rev. Devon Anderson | Minnesota VI, 2009 |
| Special Representative for HD, Pres. | |
| The Rev. Dr. Clayton L. Morris, Liturgical Officer | California VIII |
| Mrs. Phoebe Pettingell, Consultant | Fond Du Lac V |
| The Rt. Rev. Jeffery W. Rowthorn | Connecticut I |
| Special Representative for PB | |
| Mr. Frank Tedeschi, Church Publishing, Inc. | New York II |
Commission Meeting Dates
| March 2004 1-4, New York, New York | February 28–March 3, 2005,Delray Beach, Florida |
| June 28-July 1, 2004, Thousand Oaks, California | June 6-9, 2005, Atlanta, Georgia |
| October 25-28, 2004, Chicago, Illinois | October 17-21, 2005, Novi, Michigan |
The SCLM engaged the Anti-Racism mandate of General Convention Resolution 2003-A010 with an all-day exercise at its meeting in Atlanta on June 7.
Summary of Work
The Standing Commission on Liturgy and Music (SCLM) considers policies and strategies concerning the common worship of the church. At the direction of the General Convention it collects, collates, and develops textual and musical resources for the liturgical life of the Church. The following committee reports, proposed legislation and liturgies describe the work of the Commission during the triennium:
Committee Reports
Report of the Calendar Committee
Members: Neil Alexander, Barry Howe, Greg Howe, Jeffery Rowthorn, Wayne Smith, Mildred Springer
The 74th General Convention in Resolution 2003–A100 directed the Standing Commission on Liturgy and Music to undertake a revision of Lesser Feasts and Fasts that would reflect the cultural diversity of The Episcopal Church, of the wider Anglican Communion, of our ecumenical partners, and of our lively experience of sainthood in local communities. We immediately recognized that it would not be possible to accomplish so major a revision in one triennium because of its scope and depth. A timeline has been established for the completion of the revision over two triennia with a presentation of a full revision of the calendar of commemorations, with accompanying materials for adoption by the 76th General Convention in 2009.
At the beginning of our work, we studied the process of calendar development in the church catholic and, more specifically, in The Episcopal Church and the Anglican Communion. We wanted to have a clear idea of the principles that have guided such decisions in the past and their attendant theologies. On this basis, we created new principles of revision as agreed norms within which the proposed revision would be developed. These principles, approved by the Standing Commission on Liturgy and Music in October 2004, are as follows:
PRINCIPLES OF REVISION
for use in preparation of the next edition of the Sanctoral Calendar
as requested by the 74th General Convention.
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“There the Lord will permit us, so far as possible,
to gather together in joy and gladness
to celebrate the day of his martyrdom as a birthday,
in memory of those athletes who have gone before,
and to train and make ready those who are to come hereafter.”
(Martyrdom of Polycarp, Bishop of Smyrna, A.D.156)
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Resolution A057 Lesser Feasts & Fasts Revision Principles
Resolved, the House of _____ concurring, That the Principles of Revision accepted by the Standing Commission on Liturgy and Music be approved by the 75th General Convention and substituted for the Guidelines approved by the 1994 General Convention (2003 edition of Lesser Feasts and Fasts, p. 477-479).
Next Phase of Work
After establishing the principles of revision, the Commission evaluated the present state of our calendar, and compared it to the available calendars of more than twenty provinces of the Anglican Communion, the calendars of our ecumenical partners, and similar resources. We consulted with our church’s missiologists and historians, and received valuable help from such groups as the Episcopal Women’s History Project and the Union of Black Episcopalians, among others. In August 2005 a consultation held in Atlanta was attended by all four Ethnic Missioners of The Episcopal Church—African-American, Asian, Latino/Hispanic and Native American and representatives of the Chinese and Filipino communities. These contacts have been immensely helpful and continue to be strong and are effective resources for the Commission’s work. We are committed to the broadest possible enrichment of our sanctoral calendar and the Commission is grateful to the hard work of its consultants and the strong interest shown in this project by persons across the church.
It is the sincere hope of the Commission that, when completed and adopted by the church, this revision of the calendar will be more than simply a liturgical resource for daily use. We anticipate that its appearance will give birth to a wide-range of catechetical and evangelical resources that will engage and inspire persons of all ages.
Resolution A058 Continue Lesser Feasts & Fasts Revision
Resolved, the House of _____concurring, That the 75th General Convention affirm the work of revision begun in the past triennium, in anticipation of the submission of the completed revision of Lesser Feasts and Fasts, with accompanying materials, for consideration by the 76th General Convention in 2009; and be it further
Resolved, That the General Convention request the Joint Standing Committee on Program, Budget and Finance to consider a budget allocation of $5,000 for the implementation of this resolution.
Resolution A059 Approve Liturgical Calendar Commemorations
Resolved, the House of _____concurring, That the commemorations of Florence Li Tim-Oi, Janani Luwum, Philander Chase, William Temple and Clive Staples Lewis, proposed by the 74th General Convention (2003 Journal, p. 446, 447ff and 488) and approved for trial use, be now finally approved and entered in the Calendar of the Church Year (BCP, p. 15-30) and in future revisions of Lesser Feasts and Fasts.
Resolution A060 Refer Proposed Commemoration
Resolved, the House of _____concurring, That consideration of the commemoration of The Rev. Dr. John Roberts, missionary to the Wind River Indian Reservation and founder of the Shoshone Episcopal Mission, be referred to the appropriate subcommittee of the Standing Commission on Liturgy and Music for further research, consultation, and recommendation.
EXPLANATION
The 74th General Convention directed the Standing Commission on Liturgy and Music in Resolution 2003–C013 to add Dr. John Roberts to the Calendar of The Episcopal Church. As the above resolution indicates, further study is needed before the decision of the 74th General Convention can be implemented.
Resolution A061 Date Change for Harriet Tubman Commemoration
Resolved, the House of _____concurring, That a change in the date of the commemoration of Harriet Ross Tubman be duly considered by the Standing Commission on Liturgy and Music during the preparation of the new revision of Lesser Feasts and Fasts.
EXPLANATION
The 74th General Convention referred Resolution 2003–D035 to the Standing Commission on Liturgy and Music seeking a change in the date of this commemoration. As the above resolution indicates, this matter will be best addressed in the context of the revision of the Sanctoral Calendar currently underway.
Resolution A062 Approve a Common for Space Exploration
Resolved, the House of _____concurring, That the 75th General Convention authorize, for trial use until the 76th General Convention, a Common for Space Exploration, as follows:
| Psalm | 19:1-6 or Canticle 12 |
| Lessons | Job 38: 4-12, 16-18 |
| Revelation 1:7-8, 12-16 | |
| Gospel | John 15:5-9 |
| Preface of God the Father or the Epiphany | |
EXPLANATION
This resolution is the Commission’s response to Resolution 2003–D049 adopted by the 74th General Convention. While recognizing that Dr. Aldrin’s act of communicating himself with pre-consecrated elements was a unique and memorable moment, the Commission believes that this Common for Space Exploration also allows for the commemoration of those who have died in the course of space exploration—among them a significant number of Episcopalians. In addition, it provides a way of praying for future space explorers and for the thousands of people whose work makes the space program possible.
Resolution A063 Additional Calendar Commemorations
Resolved, the House of _____ concurring, That the 75th General Convention propose additional commemorations in the Calendar of the Church Year and authorize trial use thereof for the triennium 2007–2009, as follows:
| January 8 | Harriet Bedell, Deaconess and Missionary, 1969 |
| February 28 | Anna Julia Heyward Cooper, Educator, 1964 |
| March 13 | James Theodore Holly, Bishop of Haiti, 1911 |
| (or November 8) | |
| March 24 | Oscar Romero, Archbishop of San Salvador, 1980, and The Martyrs of El Salvador |
| April 7 | Tikhon, Patriarch of Russia, Confessor and Ecumenist, 1925 |
| October 10 | Vida Dutton Scudder, Educator and Witness for Peace, 1954 |
| December 30 | Frances Joseph-Gaudet, Educator and Prison Reformer, 1934 |
Resolution A064 Authorize Trial Use of Commemorations
Resolved, the House of _____concurring, That the 75th General Convention authorize, for trial use until the 76th General Convention, the commemorations proposed by this Convention, as follows:
| Psalm | 96:1-7 |
| Lesson | Romans 16:1-2 |
| Gospel | Matthew 5:1-12 |
| Preface of Apostles and Ordinations | |
| Psalm | 119:33-40 |
| Lesson | Proverbs 9:1-6 |
| Gospel | Luke 14-21 |
| Preface of a Saint (3) | |
| Psalm | 86:11-17 |
| Lessons | Deuteronomy 6:20-25 |
| Acts 8:26-39 | |
| Gospel | John 4:31-38 |
| Preface of Apostles and Ordinations | |
| Psalm | 31:15-24 |
| Lesson | Revelation 7:13-17 |
| Gospel | John 12:23-32 |
| Preface of a Saint (3) | |
| Psalm | 72 |
| Lessons | Jeremiah 31:10-14 |
| 2 Peter 1:3-11 | |
| Gospel | Matthew 5:3-16 |
| Preface for Trinity Sunday | |
| Psalm 25:1-14 | |
| Lesson | Isaiah 11:1-10 |
| Gospel | John 6:37-51 |
| Preface of a Saint (3) | |
| Psalm | 146 or 40:1-10 |
| Lesson | Lamentations 3:26-36 or Exodus 14:10-15:1 |
| Gospel | Matthew 25:35-46 or John 13:31-35 |
| Preface of a Saint (2) | |
Resolution A065 Commemoration Name Change
Resolved, the House of _____ concurring, That the 75th General Convention authorize changing the name for the commemoration of the “Martyrs of Lyons” to “Blandina and Her Companions, The Martyrs of Lyons,” as found in Lesser Feasts and Fasts.
EXPLANATION
The Historiographer of The Episcopal Church, The Rev. Dr. J. Robert Wright, has testified that Blandina was the key figure in the Roman persecution at Lyons in 177A.D. Eusebius, the first major Church historian, wrote of her as a woman whom early Christians regarded as an image of Christ: “Blandina was hung on a post and exposed as food for the wild beasts let loose in the arena. She looked as if she were hanging in the form of a cross, and through her ardent prayers she stimulated great enthusiasm in those undergoing their ordeal, who in their agony saw with their outward eyes in the person of their sister the One who was crucified for them, that he might convince those who believe in Him that anyone who has suffered for the glory of Christ has fellowship for ever with the living God.”
Report from the Committee on Multi-sensory Worship
Meeting Dates: Mt. View, California, May 23-25, 2005.
Participants: Cynthia Black, Convener of the Multi-sensory Committee; RC Laird; Clayton Morris.Consultants: Henry Faulkner, Grace Church Van Vorst, Jersey City, NJ; Isaac Everett, Church of the Epiphany, NY, NY; Eric Elnes, Scottsdale Congregational Church, Scottsdale, AZ; Karen Ward, Church of the Apostles, Seattle, WA; Lacey Brown, Church of the Apostles, Seattle, WA; Ryan Marsh, Church of the Apostles, Seattle, WA; Mel Ahlborn, Executive Council Committee on the Visual Arts; Susan Erdey, Church Publishing; Kevin Philips, Mt. View, CA.
The Multi-sensory Committee of the Standing Commission on Liturgy and Music organized a consultation of individuals who are currently exploring multi-sensory worship. While all worship is, ideally, multi-sensory, the use of this term implies that new technologies are being used in worship, including, but certainly not limited to: electronic/computer generated music, visual imagery projected on screens/monitors, and artistic expression in a variety of media. The committee considered:
The consultation was experiential and participants agreed in advance to offer a multi-sensory resource to the group. These included complete worship services, individual meditations, visual preludes, a computer generated music demonstration and a stewardship presentation. After each experience, participants were invited to reflect on what they liked and where they had concerns about the presentation.
Participants in the consultation spent significant time discussing what to call this emerging type of worship experience. While many suggestions were made (emergent worship, incarnational worship, multimedia worship, experiential worship, etc.), we agreed that no single term adequately describes the breadth of what this concept represents.
We developed a list of resources, including a directory of congregations and church communities engaged in multi-sensory worship, a directory of programs and people who offer training in aspects of multi-sensory worship, a directory of images, music clips and film clips, and resources for choosing hardware and software. While extremely preliminary in nature, it is available online at www.episcopalchurch.org/liturgymusic.htm. Other resources are available at www.theworshipwell.org and www.ecva.org.
Recommendations
While the committee’s charge from GC Resolution 2003-A092 was to prepare and collect creative worship resources for multi-sensory worship and to develop a network for sharing these resources, we believe that the charge could be expanded to include pedagogical and theological components. Many congregations have expressed a desire to use multi-sensory resources in worship, but there is currently no Episcopal resource for training and education. Resources and training events must be developed that will promote and preserve our unique Anglican liturgical identity. Some denominations and non-denominational churches already offer this type of training as well as multi-sensory “products” from their particular liturgical perspective. We believe that the Episcopal Church needs to develop it own resources that articulate its theology while partnering with others who are developing resources.
The Multi-sensory Subcommittee has only begun to consider the large topic before us. We believe it is important for our 20/20 efforts to develop these resources as expeditiously as possible. In order to continue the work of the Subcommittee, we offer the following resolution:
Resolution A066 Multi-sensory Resources
Resolved, the House of _____ concurring, That the 75th General Convention direct the Standing Commission on Liturgy and Music to
Resolved, That the General Convention request the Joint Standing Committee on Program, Budget and Finance to consider a budget allocation of $60,000 for the implantation of this resolution.
EXPLANATION
This resolution provides for work begun in the previous triennium to be continued, and that the previous charge under Resolution 2003–A092 be expanded to include both theological rationale for multi-sensory worship and training opportunities for those in the church who wish to introduce elements of multi-sensory worship in their liturgy.
Report of the Committee on Rites of Passage (2003–A092)
Meeting Dates: Los Angeles, California on September 14-17, 2004
Participants: Devon Anderson, Laurie Thompson, Julia Huttar Bailey, Ernesto Medina. Consultants: Susan Bock, Lydia Huttar Brown, Rosa Brown Watson, Butch Gamarra, Anthony Guillen, Eric Law, John Ruder, Karen Sutton, Ida Talalla, Robert Two Bulls, Lee Anne Watkins, Keith Yamamoto
Introduction
In September of 2004, a group of liturgists, musicians, and writers gathered at the Cathedral Center of Saint Paul in Los Angeles for the purpose of creating a collection of rites for the pastoral transitions in people's lives. We were to use, as a base, the culturally specific rites already existing in our church and find ways to express these liturgies for broad applications.
We acknowledge with gratitude the liturgical rhythms of our fellow Episcopalians in Red Lake, Minnesota—Night Prayer/Compline—and those along the Arctic Coast in Alaska—Singspiration. These liturgical forms provided the basis of our three-day gathering. We prayed a lot. We sang a lot. We studied scripture. We told our stories. Towards the end of the second day, we shared with each other what we had heard and what we believed God was calling us offer to the church. We broke into smaller groups and began drafting liturgical rites. The Holy Spirit was active working among us.
We left satisfied with the stewardship of our time. After some e-mail exchanges, some calling of trusted friends, some editing to make sure we were saying what we meant to say, we turned the work over to a consultant who would bring consistency to the language and bring additional song to the text. This collection of liturgical rites and prayers is offered with our love and prayers. We are thankful for the opportunity to serve God and this church. We pray that the work may be fruitful.
Liturgies for Rites of Passage
Contents
| Introductory Materials | |
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Forward Note by The Rt. Rev. Mark MacDonald | page 141 |
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Theology and Rationale | page 143 |
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Structure and Features | page 144 |
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The Rites as Related to Stages in Human Development | page 145 |
| Planning for a Rite of Passage | page 145 |
| Prayers for the Transitions of Childhood | page 147 |
| Prayers and Rites for the Transitions of Young Adulthood | |
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The Prayers | page 149 |
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A Rite of Passage for Young People and Their Parents | page 151 |
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A Rite of Passage for a Significant Birthday | page 155 |
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A Rite for Celebrating an Engagement (The Blessing of a Betrothal) | page 158 |
| Prayers and a Rite for the Transitions of Midlife | |
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The Prayers | page 161 |
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A Rite for Claiming a New Name | page 163 |
| Prayers and Rites for the Transitions of Elders | |
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The Prayers | page 165 |
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Leaving a Home | page 166 |
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A Celebration of Life on the Occasion of a Significant Birthday | page 167 |
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A Rite for the Blessing or Commissioning of an Elder | page 170 |
| Prayers and a Rite for Remembering the Departed | |
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The Prayers | page 173 |
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A Rite for Remembering a Departed Soul | page 176 |
| Appendix | |
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Suggested Hymns and Spiritual Songs | page 177 |
Rites of Passage:
Liturgies for Transitions in the Lives of God’s People
A Forward Note to Rites of Passage
by The Rt. Rev. Mark MacDonald
In its primal form, as described by the Evangelists, the Gospel was a proclamation unveiling the regal and redeeming presence of God in the everyday life of its hearers. In that Gospel encounter, Jesus became - in his life, death, resurrection, and second coming - the matrix for new life and a new world. This would lead, through a change of mind and heart, to a transformation so profound that it would provide a gateway to a new universe. Please note, it is such an expansive vision that informs and animates these Rites of Passage.
The immediate excitement these Rites will generate may obscure the larger significance of this work. There will be immediate and obvious interest in their potential for pastoral care and evangelism. GC Resolution 2003–A092 of the 74th General Convention anticipates this, citing the visionary 20/20 initiative to underline their need and importance. For most of us, the scope and quality of this work, will be quickly grasped and applied, firstly in a renewed pastoral and evangelistic imagination, and secondly, in their use in real life situations (my wife, who snuck a peek at the copy sent for my review and comment, is already well into the imaginative building of community life with them!). But this is only a part of the achievement of the team that produced this work.
I once heard Boone Porter describe the vision of the primary architects of the 1979 Book of Common Prayer. He said they had placed a number of “land mines” in what we might call the implicit ecclesiology and missiology of the Book. Only a few of these land mines have appeared, since most of us use the current prayer book as if it were a supplement to the 1928 Prayer Book. In the same way, many of us used our personal computers as fancy typewriters, without discovering that they are completely new instruments. With joy, we can say that, in these Rites of Passage, a visionary group of folks have begun to live into the promise and power of a number of the currents of renewal that have been beckoning the church forward over the past fifty years.
The remarkable breadth of these Rites, the increased missiological capacity they create, is product of many cultural currents running through the life of our Church. Like the New Zealand/Aotearoa Prayer Book, they exemplify interculturation (as opposed to inculturation, which refers to the process of the Word of God becoming living, real, and liberating in a single culture). Since Acts 15, this interculturation has been the lifeblood of the renewal of the Church. As the Word becomes flesh in a particular culture, a process of sharing with other cultures - an exchange of perspective, enrichment, and, sometimes, prophetic critique - allows the various ways of life that make up the Church Universal to transform us into what God intends us to be. In the various facets of Gospel life and light, refracted in the living experience of peoples renewed in Christ, we begin to see the first rays of a dawning for the new humanity intended for the Church. This is accomplished, when authentic, without losing either individual cultural integrity or our universal communion, both qualities being the essence of the catholicity promised us in Christ.
At a practical level, we are entering a theological perspective that may be new and challenging for many of us. Since the Enlightenment, the Churches of the West have tended to limit God’s activity and presence within the explicit realm of Church belief, teaching, and practice. This focus of institutional presentation and experience fundamentally shaped Western assumptions about the world and cultural competence within it. With the publication of these Rites we enter new cultural perspectives, as well as encountering a broader understanding of God’s Presence in Creation and in human life. For many of the cultures that now make up our common life in the Church, the Presence of God also rests in other locations of power and importance: family, home, school, work, and the environment. An amazingly diverse array of theological voices beckons the Churches of the West to a broader view of God’s Presence. These have included Eastern Orthodox theologians; theologians of the margins from many cultures and countries around the world - especially from the aboriginal peoples and Asia; feminist theologians; and, closer to home, voices like William Stringfellow, to name only a few.
We can expect that, at some level, the presentation of these Rites will raise controversy. Some of this will be related, quite simply, to their newness. Some of it will be a part of the useful and necessary process of critical reception that accompanies any new liturgical venture. We must, however, expect some controversy from the prophetic challenge the Rites raise for our common life and missiology. On this level, we will receive a call to more forward.
Orlando Costas (in his 1982 Christ Outside the Gate: Mission Beyond Christendom) prophetically noted that the only renewal possible for the North American Church would come through the re-evangelization of the churches by the poor, by ethnic minorities and by immigrants. The ease, power, and idolatry of “Christendom” would mean that any growth apart from such a re-evangelization would be mere “ecclesiastical obesity.” Though we may not have entered into that new world in these Rites of Passage, you can see it from here.
Theology and Rationale
The Holy Spirit is forever working to renew the whole creation, which “waits with eager longing for the revealing of the children of God.”1
Change, then, is inevitable in the lives of God’s people. Divine love relentlessly invites us to transformation in the image of Christ. Often, though, we resist the changes our Father asks of us. Sometimes, we fall back on the safety of the familiar. Nor are all changes godly. Our gracious Creator allows us freedom of choice—while human sin tempts us to choose badly. Nonetheless, even amid brokenness, tragedy, and the consequences of our bad choices, unexpected grace may witness to the presence and power of the Holy One. Through faith and trust in Christ, we can embrace both the joy and the pain of change, and testify to God’s redeeming power.
These rites reflect confidence in God’s presence among us throughout the changes and chances of this life. Through prayer and ritual, the Holy Spirit can stretch our hearts in love, leading individuals and the worshiping community into ever greater faith and trust.
Transitions in the Gospel Stories
In the lives of Jesus and his followers, we note major life transitions that made prophets out of carpenters, disciples out of fishermen, evangelists out of broken women. In most cases, these events were witnessed by and celebrated in the company of seekers, revelers, clerics, and skeptics, many of whom were then drawn into an ever-widening community of companionship. Examples to ponder include:
God Loves our Humanity
Through the Incarnation in Jesus Christ, God unequivocally embraces the ordinariness of human life: the divine Word came to live inside our common humanity. The Holy Spirit dwells within us every moment of our lives—even when we feel most abandoned by God. This indwelling is our assurance that the holy and undivided Trinity delights in us and cherishes creation. In Eucharistic worship, we turn to God as manifest in glory, to Christ’s presence among us in bread and wine, and to the Holy Spirit alive within each of us and present in the fellowship of the gathered community. Here, the Holy One comforts and confronts us through rich tapestries of symbol and sacrament. In liturgies acknowledging and celebrating life’s transitions, we affirm that:
So if anyone is in Christ, there is a new creation; everything old has passed away; see, everything has become new! (2 Corinthians 5:17)
Structure and Features
The following rites offer opportunities both to ask for God’s blessing and to offer that blessing to the Christian community collectively and on each of its members during moments of significant change in our lives.
Elements of the Rites
Through ritual acts, people of all cultures and religious traditions mark life’s course, giving it shared significance and sanctifying it. Rites of passage not only recognize changes that have already happened; they can also effect changes.
Passages from one stage to the next involve three elements:
Rites of separation name what is being left behind, preparing us for new birth.
Rites of transition celebrate the past while anticipating the future. They help us pause to begin the (sometimes lengthy) process of accepting and embracing change.
Rites of reintegration name, sanctify and celebrate one’s new status in the community.
While all rites of passage appear to involve this structure, the means and relative emphasis by which the ritual passage is shaped can vary widely.
Each of the following rites seeks to include these key elements or themes:
Structures of the Rites
Please note that these are templates for rites of passage. Lay and ordained leaders should adapt these rites to their particular cultural contexts.
In all of the following rites, we have sought to feature
Each rite is structured in the familiar pattern of most of our Prayer Book liturgies with these building blocks:
The Rites as Related to Stages in Human Development
These rites seek to include the particular needs and focus of the age group for which they are written, using this model of four stages of life, and the special quality or focus of each stage:2
| Youth: birth to 22: | Dependence |
| Rising Adulthood: ages 22-44: | Activity |
| Midlife: ages 45-66: | Leadership |
| Elders: age 66 and upward: | Stewardship |
The rites and prayers that follow consider these special life tasks:
Planning for a Rite of Passage
Along with complete rites, prayers and guidelines are provided to help create a rite especially suited to the transitioning person, his or her community, and the cultural context in which they live.
Who?
What?
How?
The Gathering
The Greeting
The Collect
The Ministry of the Word
The Presentation and Examination
The Action
The order of the Action and the Prayers may be reversed.
The Prayers
The Peace and, when desired, the celebration of Holy Eucharist
A Proper Preface
In most of the Rites of Transition, where a Eucharist is celebrated, this Proper Preface will be appropriate:
The liturgy continues with the Sanctus.
Prayers for the Transitions of Childhood
These prayers may be used alone or incorporated into a larger rite of passage.
The new bed may be made up with the child’s help. Members of the household, including the child, may move in procession from the crib to the bed with pillows, blankets, stuffed animals or other objects regularly part of the nighttime ritual.
Good and loving God, your watchful care never slumbers, and you give gifts to your children even as they sleep. Thank you for bringing us all to this day into which N. has grown in your protection. Give her blessed rest wherever she lays her head. Keep her well and fill her dreams with hope. Awaken her every morning to the sureness of your love with joy and courage for the day at hand; through Jesus, our Savior and Friend. Amen.
Becoming a Big Brother or SisterYou call us your children, O God, and through grace and adoption you make us your own. Through the birth of a baby to his mother and father, N. has become a big brother. Help him to be patient and gentle with himself and the baby as he learns to share his home, his parent(s), and his toys. Keep this new relationship in your watchful care, so that these children may become lifelong companions in friendship and faith; through Jesus, our Brother and Lord, we pray. Amen.
Beginning the School YearDear God, today is N.’s first day of school [First Grade], a happy, exciting, scary day. We pray that N.’s teachers will be generous, wise, and gracious. We pray for N.’s classmates, so that true friendships may be found for all. Especially we pray for N. Keep her safe and well. Open her heart and mind to a world of learning, and may this be the first of thousands of days in which she knows the depth of your love and the constancy of your care. We pray in Jesus’ name. Amen.
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Child of my heart, may the blessing of the Holy Trinity go with you today.
May God’s strength keep you secure.
May Christ our true Wisdom guide your learning.
May the Holy Spirit make you glad and good.
May the enfolding of the Trinity hold you and bring you, at day’s end, safely home.
Amen.
Ending the School YearDear God, we have finished a year of school, and we are thankful. We have been challenged and tested; we have studied and played; we have loved and we have grown. We are ready for a long and joy-filled rest. Bless this school year now ending. Bless our teachers and friends. May our bodies stay well, our hearts and minds open; and may all of our learning help us to serve this world you love so dearly. We pray in Jesus’ name. Amen.
Becoming a ReaderDear God, our brother, N., has learned to read and now enters the vast world of books. Let his imagination and joy increase and his perception of truth grow strong as he delights in words, traveling through stories. Remind him to read your word in the Bible, and to write its instruction into his heart. May he learn to read, as well, the sorrows and needs of others, and all the signs of your loving presence in this world you created. We pray in Jesus’ name. Amen.
Learning to Ride a BikeYou move through our lives, O God, like the wind, pushing and pulling us into the adventures of growing up. Our young sister, N., has learned to ride a bicycle, conquering fear, enlarging her world, and tasting new freedom and speed. May the learning of this skill teach her to risk and to trust, to hold on and to let go, as life demands from day to day, and may she be kept safe always. We pray in Jesus’ name. Amen.
Going Away to CampIn the beauty of your world, O God, you show us how great your love is. Be with N. as he goes away to camp. Open his eyes to the wonder of creation and, in it, let him draw nearer to you. Let his play be joyful. Let him encounter wonder and surprise as he learns. Let his rest be peaceful. Keep N. well and safe, in the knowledge that he is deeply loved by you and by us, who hold him dear in our hearts forever. We pray in Jesus’ name. Amen.
When a Friend Moves AwayThere is no place in all the world, O God, where you do not hold us in love. N.’s friend is moving away. But as your love can stretch from house to house, from nation to nation, and from heart to heart, so it can keep our friendships strong wherever we may be. Help N. and her friend, N., as they say goodbye. Comfort their sadness. May the joy they have known with each other last, and ever be found in new friends. We pray in Jesus’ name. Amen.
Prayers and Rites for the Transitions of Youth and Young Adulthood
The Rites
Creator of Life, you have formed us in your image, male and female, and we are wonderfully made for the joy of human love. We thank you for this girl, N., whom you have brought to maturity. In the freedom of childhood she has come to this time, and she needs your grace and guidance for the responsibilities of adulthood. You have designed her days for love and for work, for sharing and for growing, for searching and for finding. Keep her safe throughout her life, and give her the courage to follow her heart, and walk in your ways; through Jesus, our true Companion in our journey to you. Amen.
Earning a Driver’s License or PermitGracious God, our brother, N., has come to an occasion of great privilege and responsibility. In the new freedoms which driving affords him, help N. to remember all of us who love him and are trusting him to drive safely, wisely, and kindly. In all the journeys of his life, go with him and bear him up with your sheltering love. And may this adventure be only one of thousands in which your gifts of freedom and care go hand-in-hand to bless him; through Jesus Christ our Savior. Amen.
Dating RelationshipsOur greatest joy in life, O God, is to love. We thank you for showing us through Jesus that loving a child, a friend, a dream or a companion makes us more fully human, created in your image. As N. stands ready to begin dating, help her to remember that she will be learning about that love is sacred. May she bring to each new date hope for a true friendship. May she listen, and speak, and act with the greatest respect for herself and for her companion. May she strive for a relationship that is truthful, patient, courageous, and kind. Above all, may love teach her to love you more and more as, through the Spirit’s care, she grows in the image of your holy child, Jesus Christ our Redeemer. Amen.
Graduating from High SchoolIn every beginning is an ending, O Lord, and in every end something new begins. Our brother, N., has graduated from high school, and is ready now for new learning and experiences. Grant that childhood’s innocence and hope may remain alive in him bringing joy as he matures. Grant that he may hear your still small voice in his heart saying, “This is the way; walk in it.” Help his preserve old friendships while creating new ones. Grant that we who love his may help him to find his own voice, his own words and his own work in Christ’s true way who knows the person he was created to be; we pray this in Jesus’ name. Amen.
Going to CollegeGracious God, your Holy Spirit instructs our hearts in the ways of life. In going to college, your child, N., has set aside a time of learning and preparation for her life’s work. Through all the years ahead, make her hungry for wisdom tempered with love. Help her discern the truth in all that she learns, in the people she meets, and in the choices she must face each day. Keep her mind alert for the rigors of study and exams. Keep her body safe and well. Giver her a heart bold to question, yet alive to your wonders. And assure her always of your love and ours; through Christ your Wisdom made flesh. Amen.
Joining the WorkforceHoly God, you call us to work as friends of Jesus who was sent among us to serve and reconcile. As N. enters the workforce, bless him with wisdom and skill. May the work of his hands bring him satisfaction. May he be faithful, honest, and fair with all who labor beside him, and may they be so with him. In all that he does, may he glorify Christ, whose saving work on the cross brings us to rest in your love, and through whom we pray. Amen.
A Call to Military ServiceGod of Peace and ruler of every nation: at the end of the age when Christ’s kingdom is established on earth there will be no more war or dying, and God will wipe away every tear. But in our own time, Lord, the heartbreak of warfare remains part of our lives. As our sister N. answers a call to service, fill her with courage and purpose. Guide, preserve and strengthen her so that she may be true to the highest ideals of the country she serves. Help her to know she is daily in our love and prayers; and return her safely to us, so that we may show gratitude and pride in her self-offering and valor; through Jesus, the Prince of Peace. Amen.
Going on a PilgrimageHoly One, your Spirit leads us through the journey of our lives as we walk, run, dance, crawl, stumble, leap, and fly. You never abandon us, but always beckon: Come! Go! Follow! Return! This Pilgrim/these Pilgrims have heard the Spirit’s call to travel to _____. As you led your people, night and day, by fire and clouds, so lead N. (N., N.,) by the light of your love. Go before him to prepare a safe path. Stay beside him to instill purpose and joy in his mission. Follow after him to leave peace in the wake of wherever he has stayed. Give your angels charge over his journey. At his returning, may all he has seen be engraved on his heart, and his sense of home enlarged forever; through Jesus Christ, our Savior and Guide. Amen.
Moving from the Family HomeYour Spirit, O God, keeps us moving ever forward in faith as you call us to new places and new beginnings. Your servant, N., is leaving the home of her childhood to a home of her own. We give thanks for her newfound independence and the courage to care for herself. May the place she is leaving withstand her loss. May the home she is creating become a place of shelter and peace. And may we all come to know our true and eternal home in your heart; through Christ our Lord. Amen.
For Godly Expression of One’s SexualityO God, you have made us in your image and called us to the joys of human love. That love, the sign and seal of your own love for each of us, is shown through companionship and caring, and, powerfully and mysteriously, through the mystery of godly sexual expression shared with each other. This young person, N., is opening his heart to learn the wideness of love. As he strives to discover who he is, whose he is, and the person he is given to love, may he be guided, protected, and encouraged by you, O Love Incarnate. Give him wisdom in choosing, courage in loving, and patience in waiting for the marvelous truth of his life to unfold in your grace, most holy and undivided Trinity, alive through all the ages. Amen.
A Rite of Passage for Young People
and Their Parents
The journey through adolescence often challenges both young people and their parents. The parish community can affirm and uphold them through this journey.
This rite is appropriate for an individual or for a group of young people. It may be used to mark graduation from elementary school, entrance into middle school, or turning 13.
Entrance Rite
In the opening procession, each young person is joined by family. They are seated together at the front of the assembly.
Suggestions for hymns and spiritual songs are listed below.
Opening Acclamation
| Presider | Blessed be God who has brought us to this day. |
| People | Blessed be the God of all our days. |
| Presider | Thanks be to Jesus who restores us to wholeness. |
| People | Thanks be to Jesus in whose death is our life. |
| Presider | Praise to the Spirit who calls us to service. |
| People | Praise to the Spirit who matures us in love. |
Collect
| Presider | The Lord be with you. |
| People | And also with you. |
| Presider | Let us pray. |
Holy God, in you we live and move and have our being: Grant to all your people the courage to live gracefully through the changes and chances of life, giving thanks for your guiding Spirit and your never-failing love; through Jesus Christ our Lord, who with you and the Holy Spirit, lives and reigns for ever and ever. Amen.
The Ministry of the Word
Suggested readings are listed below.
A homily may follow.
The Presentation and Examination
Dear People of God: Throughout life’s journey we encounter moments of change that call us to grow. In the relationship between parent and child there are many such moments of challenge and grace. Though each of these has unique burdens and joys, adolescence especially requires greater patience, forgiveness, courage, and hope. Parent and child must learn to risk and to let go. These children and their parents come to this faithful community to offer thanks for all that has been, and to seek God’s blessing for all their futures. We join them in acknowledging and celebrating the transition as they stand on the threshold.
Who is ready to begin this new phase of life?
Parents and children present each other, one family group at a time. Godparents and other significant adults may also stand with the parents and children.
| Young Person | These are my parents N. and N., who have raised me and love me. |
| or | |
| This is my mother/father N., who has raised me and loves me. | |
| Parents | This is our son/daughter N., whom we love with all our heart. |
| or | |
| Parent | This is my son/daughter N., whom I love with all my heart. |
Young person and parent(s) together
We stand before God and before our faithful community to acknowledge that we are in the midst of a change that calls us to fresh ways of understanding one another. Help us be thankful for all that has been and for all that is to come. We trust God’s constant love and pray a blessing for this time of transition.
The Presider addresses the young people and adults, saying
N., N., [and N.], you are made in the image of God who has held you in love every day of your life, and always will. Remember your divine Maker who formed you in joy and remolds you for the changes that lie before you. The Creator who knows you delights in the work that prepares you for your roles in Christ’s healing of the world.
The Presider addresses the young people, saying
N., [N., and N.], will you continue to honor your parents, respecting their life experience, and remembering their love for you?
| Young People | I will, with God’s help |
| Presider | Will you strive to make decisions that honor your body, your spirit, and your relationships? |
| Young People | I will, with God’s help |
Presider, to the parents
N., [N., and N.], in the sacred responsibility of giving and sustaining life, you reflect the image of God. These children are God’s gifts to you, as truly as you are God’s gifts to them. Remember that God has never forsaken you, and will always be near, in this and in every good work to which you are called for which you respond in faith. Know that you are ministers of God’s love to these young people.
Will you respect the dignity of your sons and daughters, listening to all that they tell you, even allowing them to make their own mistakes when you may responsibly do so?
| Parents | I will, with God’s help. |
| Presider | Will you set limits and spacious boundaries for these young people, intended to keep them safe and well? |
| Parents | I will, with God’s help. |
| Presider, to parents & young people | Will all of you be patient with yourselves and each other, practicing forgiveness and forbearance, and holding fast to love’s courage, joy, and hope? |
| Young People & Parents | We will, with God’s help. |
| Presider | Will you remember to include the outcast, love the lonely, and practice mercy? |
| Young People & Parents | We will, with God’s help. |
| Presider | Will you be faithful in attending church, studying the scriptures, and saying your prayers? |
| Young People & Parents | We will, with God’s help. |
| Presider, to the People | Will you as their Christian community support these young people and their parents during their time of change and growth? |
| Congregation |
We will. We welcome your presence among us, honoring the gifts of insight and freshness you bring us. We will sing and pray with you. We will challenge you to be generous and compassionate as you serve Christ in your home, at church, and in the world. Will you do the same for us? |
| Young People & Parents |
We will, with God’s help. |
The Prayers
The use of the Prayers for the Candidate at baptism are suggested (on page 305 in The Book of Common Prayer) using this introduction and Collect in place of those provided there.
Let us now pray for this young person who seeks God’s blessing and ours as she journeys into adulthood.
At the conclusion
Grant, O Lord, that this young person, who was baptized into the death of Jesus Christ your Son, may continue her earthly pilgrimage in the power of his resurrection, and may wait in hope for his coming again in glory, who lives and reigns now and for ever. Amen.
In place of these prayers, others may be written for the occasion.
The Blessing
The people may gather round and lay hands on the young people and their parents, as the Presider offers this blessing.
All-holy God, source of every blessing: We thank you for the mystery of growing up, the transformation of body, mind, and spirit that brings children to adulthood. We marvel in this and all your works. Give these parents and young people grace and courage, patience and good humor, respect and compassion, and unfailing hope, as they travel together through life, sisters and brothers united in Christ and his household, the Church. We pray in Jesus’ name. Amen.
The service continues with the Peace and, if desired, the celebration of the Eucharist.
This Preface may be used at the Eucharist:
From day to day, from age to age, throughout our lives in this world and the next, you show yourself to be eternal Love, giver and sustainer of all goodness and joy; and so, with all the saints of every generation who are ancient in faith and young in hope, we join to sing your praise:
Suggested Readings
| 1 Samuel 3:1-10 | (The calling of Samuel) |
| Isaiah 61:1-3 | (The Spirit of the Lord is upon me) |
| Proverbs 2:1-5 | (If you make your ear attentive to wisdom) |
| Proverbs 3:13-18 | (Happy are those who find wisdom) |
| Proverbs 6:20-22 | (Keep your father’s commandment and your mother’s teaching) |
| Joel 2:28c-29 | (I will pour out my spirit on all flesh) |
| Psalm 22:9-10 | (It was you who took me from my mother’s womb) |
| Psalm 23 | (The Lord is my shepherd) |
| Psalm 70:5-6, 17-18 | (You are my trust from my youth) |
| Psalm 119:9-16 | (How can young people keep their way pure?) |
| Psalm 139:1-18 | (You knit me together in my mother’s womb) |
| Romans 8:14-17 | (All who are led by the Spirit of God are children of God) |
| 1 Corinthians 13 | (When I was a child) |
| Ephesians 4:11-16 | (Until we all attain to the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ) |
| Philippians 4:4-9 | (Whatever is true, honorable… think on these things…and the God of peace will be with you) |
| 1 Timothy 4:11-16 | (Let no one despise your youth) |
| Luke 2:41-52 | (Jesus, as a boy, in the Temple) |
Suggested Hymns and Spiritual Songs
[more suggestions on pp. xx-xx]
| From The Hymnal 1982 | |
| 611 | Christ, the worker |
| 490 | I want to walk as a child of the light |
| 549, 550 | Jesus calls us |
| 602 | Jesu, Jesu |
| 587 | Our Father, by whose Name |
| 599 | Lift every voice and sing |
| 482 | Lord of all hopefulness |
| 554 | ‘Tis the gift to be simple |
| From Lift Every Voice and Sing II | |
| 16 | You are near |
| 52 | God has smiled on me |
| 59 | My heavenly father watches over me |
| 65 | Bless the Lord |
| 70 | I want Jesus to walk with me |
| 76 | Jesus in the morning |
| 91 | Give me Jesus |
| 100 | Somebody’s Knockin’ |
| 106 | Precious Lord |
| 111 | Come thou fount of every blessing |
| 131 | I know the Lord’s laid his hands on me |
| 136 | I have decided to follow Jesus |
| 160 | This little light of mine |
| 177 | Standin’ in the need of prayer |
| 189 | Great is thy faithfulness |
| 194 | Lead me, guide me |
| 213 | Children of the heavenly Father |
| 214 | God is so good |
| 216 | In my life Lord, be glorified |
| 218 | Jesus loves me |
| 219 | This is the day that the Lord has made |
| 220 | Jacob’s ladder |
| 221 | This little light of mine |
| 231 | Choral benediction |
| 232 | Thank you Lord |
| 189 | Great is thy faithfulness |
| 128 | Hush, hush, somebody’s callin’ my name |
| 191 | His eye is on the sparrow |
| From Wonder, Love, and Praise | |
| 747 | God, the sculptor of the mountains |
| 819 | Guide my feet, Lord |
| 812 | I, the Lord of sea and sky |
| 742 | Loving Spirit |
| 770 | O God of gentle strength |
| 757 | Will you come and follow me |
From other sources:
I was there to hear your borning cry (Fortress Press)
Sanctuary (Full Armor Music and Whole Armor Music)
Bless now, O God, the journey (Voices Found)
Make me a channel of your peace (OCP)
We Are Called, Come, Live in the Light (GIA)
You are Mine (GIA)
Bind us Together (Kingsway’s Thank You Music)
We are not our own (New Century Hymnal)
A Rite of Passage for a Significant Birthday
This rite is intended for young men and women celebrating a significant birthday in their journey to adulthood. The age will vary, depending on the community. Many cultures have long celebrated Quinceañera (a girl’s 15th birthday), Fiesta Clavel (a boy’s 15th birthday), Sweet Sixteen, Debut or Coming of Age.
This rite affirms God’s presence, continued blessing, guidance for the future. Mindful of this day’s personal significance, the young person, along with parents and godparents should meet with clergy to review the intent of the rite, to select passages of Scripture, and plan the service.
Hymns and Readings for this service may be chosen from the list in the Rite of Passage for Young People and their Parents, or from the list on page xx.
A homily may be preached, or, alternatively, parents godparent, and friends of the young person may speak of their memories, knowledge, and love of her.
The Gathering and Greeting
As the rite begins, the young person enters the church with her/his parents and godparents. Other persons may join the procession.
Opening Acclamation
| Presider | Blessed be the one, holy, and living God |
| People | Glory to God for ever and ever. |
| or | |
| Presider | Blessed be God who has brought us to this day. |
| People | Blessed be the God of all our days. |
| Presider | Thanks be to Jesus who restores us to wholeness. |
| People | Thanks be to Jesus in whose death is our life. |
| Presider | Praise to the Spirit who calls us to service. |
| People | Praise to the Spirit who matures us in love. |
| Presider | We gather to celebrate our sister, N., to give thanks for her _____ years of life, and to seek God’s blessing for all the years to come. |
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Let us pray. O God, we offer joyful thanks for our sister, N. You knit her together and wonderfully made her to love you so that she may serve and delight in you all her days. On this day we rejoice as she takes on new responsibilities among your people. We bless her and to call her into a graceful maturing. May she discover your will for her life, trusting in its unfolding in peace; through Jesus Christ alive with you and the Holy Spirit throughout all ages. Amen. |
A Hymn of Praise may be sung.
The Ministry of the Word
Suggested readings are listed below.
Parents and godparents may read the lessons.
The Homily.
The Presentation and/or Examination
The young person may be presented to the congregation by parents, godparents, or other sponsors with these or similar words:
I present N., who comes to give thanks to God for her life, to commit her life to Christ, and to ask for the Holy Spirit’s continued guidance in her life.
The following questions for parents and godparents may be used:
How has N. been faithful to her life in God?
She has worshiped, prayed, and served in her community of faith.
How has N. been faithful to her life with others?
She has been a true friend, a diligent student, and an active member of her family.
How has N. been faithful to herself?
She is honest, forgiving, and kind. She is a delight to our hearts and we are proud of who she is and who she is becoming.
The Prayers
The Prayers for the Candidate at baptism (on page 305 in The Book of Common Prayer) may be used, substituting this introduction and Collect.
Let us now pray for this young person who seeks God’s blessing and ours as she journeys into adulthood.
and
Grant, O Lord, that this young person, who is baptized into the death of Jesus Christ your Son, may continue her earthly journey in the power of his resurrection, and may wait in hope for his coming again in glory, who lives and reigns now and for ever. Amen.
In place of these prayers, others may be written for the occasion.
The Commitment of the Young Person
The young person may offer a personal prayer of thanksgiving and dedication composed for this occasion, or may bring a gift or symbol of thanksgiving to the altar or another appropriate devotional place.
The Blessing of the Young Person
The Presider, Parents and Godparents may gather around and lay hands upon the young person as this prayer is offered:
Bless this child, O Lord, and sustain her in grace as she grows into maturity. As we prayed at her baptism, we continue to ask you to give her a questioning and discerning heart, a will that is brave and strong, a spirit knowing and loving the God who made her. May she delight in all your works as she continues to become the person you created her to be. Give her grace to speak forthrightly in truth. Let her greet new experiences with courage and hope. Help her discover true love. May she discern a calling that uses the gifts you have given her. Keep her safe and strong. Grant her health in old age. We pray especially that she may blossom in the knowledge that she is precious in your sight and in ours. Bless this child, O Lord, and sustain her in grace, in the name of her most faithful companion on the way, Jesus our Savior and Lord. Amen.
The Peace
The Eucharist
This Preface may be used at the Eucharist:
From day to day, from age to age, throughout our lives in this world and the next, you show yourself to be eternal Love, giver and sustainer of all goodness and joy; and so, with all the saints of every generation who are ancient in faith and young in hope, we join to sing your praise:
Suggested Readings:
| Ecclesiastes 11:7-9 | (On youth, and the fear of God) |
| Isaiah 7:10-14 | (A virgin is chosen by God) |
| Jeremiah 1:4-10 | (The calling of Jeremiah) |
| 1 Samuel 3:1-10 | (The calling of Samuel) |
| Joel 2:28c-29 | (I will pour out my Spirit) |
| Isaiah 61: 1-11 | (The Spirit of the Lord God is upon me) |
| Micah 6:6-8 | (Do justice, love mercy, walk humbly with God) |
| Psalm 116 | (God is our refuge) |
| Psalm 121 | (My help comes from the Lord) |
| Psalm 144:12-15 | (Prosperity for the people of God) |
| Canticles from Enriching Our Worship: | |
| Canticle B | A Song of Pilgrimage |
| Canticle K | A Song of our Adoption |
| Galatians 3:27-29 | (In Christ there is no male or female) |
| Galatians 4:4-7 | (We are sons and daughters of the same God) |
| Ephesians 1:3-6 | (God chose us in Christ before creation) |
| 1 John 4:7-11 | (Beloved, let us love one another) |
| Romans 12:1-8 | (Present your bodies as a living sacrifice) |
| Matthew 25:1-13 | (The parable of wise and foolish virgins) |
| Luke 1:26-38 | (The Annunciation of Gabriel to Mary) |
| Luke 1:46-55 | (The Magnificat) |
| Luke 2:41-51 | (The boy Jesus at the temple) |
Other suggestions for readings:
Celebrating an Engagement
(The Blessing of a Betrothal)
The re-examination of possible betrothal rites provides several exciting opportunities for the Church. All too often, current practice leaves Church weddings a dependency of available bookings for the wedding reception. Nor, in such situations are many members of the regular congregation invited to be present. “Celebrating an Engagement” initiates interesting possibilities. A betrothal rite at a regularly scheduled Sunday Eucharist allows us to move from the traditional contractual model of matrimony to a more theologically sound form of forging a covenant It allows the prospective bride and groom to ease into their new status in a supportive, low stress environment. It also allows several powerful symbolic acts—such as a formal blessing of an engagement ring [perhaps the restoration of ‘banns’?].
In To Join Together, Kenneth W. Stephenson writes,4
From a modest beginning, as a special blessing during the Eucharistic assembly, the Constantinian Church gradually took on much of the content of the pagan nuptial rites of Imperial Rome. This brought with it the contractual foundation inherited from both Jewish and Roman sources. During the medieval period there were wide variations in regional practice: “…in England, [the priest] presides, and does no more,…In Spain, he ‘hands over’ the woman … at the end of the mass. …Germany is more neutral; here the priest ‘solemnizes’ the union made by consent. Finally, Normandy goes over the top, with the priest reciting the definitive formula, “I join you together.”
Beneath these variations lies a common pattern: a betrothal ceremony followed by a separate and distinct marriage rite. In the late medieval period, the two rites moved closer and closer together, until, with the emergence of the Book of Common Prayer in 1549, the two rites merged into one. The whole medieval-renaissance progression was about making marriage a more public and ecclesial event, with the Church as guarantor of the marriage. Ironically, in our time, marriage has tended to become more and more a private act, detached from the real life of the Church. A rediscovery of betrothal rites might help us to better understand marriage as “… one of God’s greatest gifts, one of the closest symbols of [who God] is, and of the union between [God] and us.”
The community may gather in a circle, with the couple at its center.
The Gathering
Opening Acclamation
| Presider | Blessed be God who has brought us to this day. |
| People | Blessed be the God of all our days. |
| Presider | Thanks be to Jesus who restores us to wholeness. |
| People | Thanks be to Jesus in whose death is our life. |
| Presider | Praise to the Spirit who calls us to service. |
| People | Praise to the Spirit who matures us in love. |
| Psalm 128 may be said together by the People | |
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Blessed are all those who fear the Lord: those who walk in God’s ways. You shall eat the fruit of your labors: and you shall be happy and prosper. Your wife shall be like a fruitful vine: within the walls of your house; your children like slips of olive: planted ‘round about your table. Thus shall all those be blessed: who fear the Lord in their heart. May the Lord bless you from the holy city: may you see the prosperity of Jerusalem all the days of your life. May you live to see your children’s children: and upon Israel let there be peace. |
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The Ministry of the Word
| Presider | Hear these words of love from the Song of Solomon: |
| These may be recited by the couple or by other readers. | |
| The Man |
You have ravished my heart, my sister, my bride; You have ravished my heart with a glance of your eyes. |
| The Woman |
You are my beloved and you are my friend. You are the one my soul loves. |
| The Man |
How sweet is your love, my sister, my bride! How much sweeter is your love than wine. |
| The Woman |
Your name is like oil poured out and your love is better than wine! |
The Blessing by the People
The People may extend their hands toward the couple, or come forward to lay hands on them.
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N. and N., may God bless you this day, honoring your love. May God make your love a blessing to all who are touched by its warmth and light. May your love grow ever stronger and always be true. |
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| Reader 1 |
In the life that you share, may you come to know deep joy, ordinary pleasures, the miracle of forgiveness. |
| Reader 2 |
May you always remember politeness, endurance, your very first kiss. |
| Reader 3 |
May you be given old age together, bright mornings, quiet evenings, laughter and tears |
| Reader 4 |
Surprise and adventure, good health, [healthy children,] and all the courage of love! |
The people may add their own hopes, prayers, and counsel, beginning with such phrases as “N. and N., may you have…” or, “… be given…,” or “… remember…”.
The Presider gives the blessing with these or similar words:
N. and N., may God join together all the pieces of your lives into a fine and sturdy quilt to cover your days with grace. And may all who bless you be blessed!
Here may be sung “Peace before us” (substituting “Peace before you”) or “God, Grant Them Many Years”([from Wonder, Love, and Praise) or some other choice.
The Final Prayer
Prayed by the people and couple together
Blessed are you, Lord our God.
You give abundant joy to bridegroom and bride.
Bring us to the day of this wedding
in safety and peace.
Pour out your grace on us.
Help us each to know how beloved we are in you
and live inside the deep joy of that knowing.
Help us submit our hearts to the yoke of love
so that we come into its perfect freedom.
Grant to each of us our heart’s desire;
We pray in the name of the Christ
whose desire for us all, simply and wholly, is you.
Amen.
Prayers and Rites for the Transitions of Midlife
The Prayers
The Rite
A Rite for Receiving or Claiming a New Name
Holy God, you call us to do the works of Christ who came to live among us in love as a servant. Our true call is to be transformed into his likeness. As N. begins this new job, grant him wisdom and skill, so that the work of his hands may bring him satisfaction. Help him to be faithful, honest, and fair with those who labor beside him, and let them be so with him. May he glorify you in all he does, through Christ whose saving work on the cross brings us to rest in your love. Amen.
Ending a JobAuthor of Life, you ordered the seasons and watch over the times between sowing and reaping, fallow and planting. We pray with N., whose work in this place has now ended. During her years at this job, she faithfully accomplished her tasks, befriending those who worked beside her. Bless her as she leaves [and enters a period of waiting]. Bring relief if she is anxious. Strengthen her trust in you, [and guide her search for new work]. By the power of the Holy Spirit, assure her of your continuing love and care, and of her usefulness in the work of your kingdom; through Christ the Worker, our ever present help and companion. Amen.
Earning a GED (General Equivalency Diploma) or Other DiplomaGracious God, you are always calling us to stretch our hearts in love and stretch our minds in learning. Through patience and perseverance, our brother, N. has earned his GED. We thank you for your gifts of courage, determination, and the discipline which have kept him committed to his goal, and brought him to this proud day. As he faces life’s next challenge, renew him in your love, and strengthen him to do your will; through Christ our Lord. Amen.
Release from PrisonLiberating God, we lose our true freedom when we wander from your love, but when we come home to you, we receive fullness of joy. Our sister, N., ends her prison/jail sentence and returns to a world that waits for her. Calm her fears and guard her from stumbling; surround her with friendship, and fill her with hope, reassured by your love and ours; through Jesus your Christ, our Redeemer and Liberator.